During the first two weeks, I could not touch her aside from stroking her tiny, see-through arm softly through the incubator. This ultimately broke my heart more than so much else did at the time—not being able to touch her, to be connected with her, as we’d been for months (for a lifetime, if you count her status as an egg in my body!).
I never knew what obstetric fistula was until The Breast Cancer Site started to run a campaign to help women with this terrifying condition. In fact, I’d never heard of the disease, period. Obstetric fistula, for anyone else who is unfamiliar with the condition, is the development of a fistula, or hole, between the rectum and vagina or the bladder and the vagina. It can happen after a woman undergoes a very hard childbirth. Poorly orchestrated abortions, female genital mutilation, and pelvic fractures may also cause the condition.